Be a Leader: How to change People w/o Offense or Resentment

A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.              
                                                                
   By Dale Carnegie
   

6 ways to make people like you!

1.) Become genuinely interested in other people!

2.) Smile!

3.) Remember that a persons name is to that person The Sweetest and Most Important sound in any language!

4.) Be a good Listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

5.) Talk in the terms of the other person's interest.

6.) Make the other person feel important, and Do It Sincerely!

written by Dale Carnegie   "How to win friends and influence people."

Is your partner a good match for you?

I was recently listening to one of my favorite motivational speakers Anthony Robbins and his wife Sage on their website http://www.ultimaterelationshipblog.com and the topic was three questions to ask yourself to find out if you and your partner are a good match...

He says that just like a employer interviewing an employee for a job ask yourself some questions like...

1.) CAN they do this job? CAN this person be my partner?

but more so...

2.)WILL this person be my partner?.... LONG TERM?...

-Are your goals aligned? Do you share the same life goals?

-Nature of the person- same beliefs, same values, same interests?

3.) Are you the right team fit? What are your 2 top needs??? Are they aligned with your partner?

- Are your core values in tune?

- Do you share a similar driving force?

Your Goals, Belief Systems and Values Change over time but your Needs Structure Rarely changes...

 and it makes me truly reflect do we sometimes get involved with people based on many other factors Looks, Finance, that butterfly feeling in our gut when we see them???.....and then wonder why it doesn't work out?

Things that make you go hmmmm....

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